Yup, I know – I couldn’t believe this was the title of a news article.
I genuinely thought that it was a joke.
I thought my sister was having a bit of a post baby Facebook meltdown (she gave birth 8 weeks ago).
There are a lot (and I mean a lot) of different articles about wellbeng and how you can do some really simple things to improve your own, or someone else's wellbeing.
Heck, I've even written a few!
But, the problem is - wellbeing is not easy to measure.
Well, don’t these things seem to come around really quickly?
I could have sworn we’ve only just celebrated stress awareness month!
But seriously, did you know this has been going since 1992?
Obviously, I know that stress has been around since way before 1992 (it is after all a completely natural response programmed into every cell in our body …)
If you've been AWOL the past few days you may have missed the fact it's World Autism Awareness Week #WAAW2017.
Don't worry because the USA has dedicated the whole of April to Autism Awareness so you can always jump in on that :)
Now, please bear with me through the post as some of the things you'll read may seem a little out there and may even stir up some deep routed eye rolling but I promise the end will absolutely be worth waiting for.
Well for starters we all have mental health.
Some people however, are going through a period of mental ill health.
& according to research most people will experience a period of mental ill health during their lifetime.
(Sorry this really does mean if you've been mentally healthy until now tomorrow may not be quite so great...)
Ok, I get it.
You're a little dubious to the whole essential oils thing.
I don't blame you.
I was the biggest skeptic going until September 2015 and I even gatecrashed an educational workshop to shut the whole farcical operation down...
Before I get into the 'why', it's probably a good idea for me to quickly get into the 'what'.
As in - what is emotional wellbeing?
Well, emotional wellbeing is simply the level of emotional health an individual has.
Well, isn't that the 'million dollar question'!
OK, so maybe not...
But it's definately something I get asked all the time & would love to be worth $1 million.
Just imagine all the fantastic things we could do with that money to help people!
So, you might think that suicide is a bit of a hefty subject for a Friday afternoon but for me at least there are no 'right-times' to bring up the subject.
While I appreciate as a topic of conversation it that can cause sideways glances and hushed tones, in the wider scheme of things it really should be on everyone's agenda.
It's been a few months since I said the 'S' word & after sitting in the local strategy meeting this afternoon I realised it's something I definitely should be saying more often.
OK, what's really important to realise about motivation is that there are two types; internal and external.
Internal motivation is when the individual is motivated to do something because they want to and external motivation is when an individual is motivated to do something because something external has incentivised them.
Well it depends.
It depends on what 'cost' you're talking about do you mean to the individual, to the business or to the UK economy as a whole?
Just in case you're really not sure here's all three!
Before you read on I want you to take just a moment to really think about whether you really want to know.
Because in all honesty it isn’t pretty.
If you’re like me when I watch horror films I do it while peaking from behind a pillow - because you just have to know.
You can choose to leave this post and go back to living in ignorance.
Or you can read on and find out the shocking truth...
This sentence is your pillow.
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It's really easy to get tied up in the 'parenting' of being a parent but then end up not paying attention to what you're actually doing as the parent.
In business there's a great phrase called 'fire-fighting' used to describe leaders who spend their whole time running around after problems there's never any time to sit back, plan & develop any solutions.
I going to just throw the title of the blog post back at you for a moment & ask you why you think it isn't important?
I mean - surely looking after your physical and mental health is at the top of your agenda because unless your fit and healthy then nothing else really matters.
OK, so let’s go right back to the beginning again because it seems despite all the hard work of many upstanding individuals the fact that stress is bad (and I mean really bad), is just not quite sinking in with many people.
Mainly, the people who either aren’t stressed, or those who are pretending that they’re not stressed.
To be honest, most the time people just don’t realise they are stressed.
I mean, would you truly know that you’re stressed if you’ve been stressed since you were a teenager?
That’s pretty much when it starts to kick in for everyone.
While you’re desperately trying to remember everything you have learned since you first started school and successfully regurgitate it in an hour to a high standard...
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OMG, I can't believe it's been a year!
If you missed out last time then here's your chance to make up for it :)
It's really easy to get involved - and it's so simple to get the conversation flowing.
Now, you may think that this is a really weird question for me to ask but here me out.
I joined the gym the other day (even though I have been resisting since I last joined and gave up 2 years ago...).
It's costing £34 a month.
Before I jump in, why don’t we just flip this on its head and have a look at what employee disengagement looks like.
If you’re at work right now, take a sneaky peak at all the people around you. I’m sure you’ll be able to spot at least one person who ticks a few of these boxes:
Slouching, low mood, staring blankly into space, always making tea/coffee, first to complain, often late, needs constant reminding to do their job, and every time you get near them it feels as though they’ve just stolen all your energy from you...
Engaged employees are the direct opposite. Now, I wonder if you can spot anyone who’s:
Excited every morning, loves helping others, forever going above and beyond the call of duty, always on time, never complains or moans, hyper productive, and lifts everyone in the office by just being there.
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I promise Dr Google really doesn’t have all the answers on this one.
Neither do most of those parenting books you’ve been avidly reading since your children were just tiny little dots on a scan.
Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not knocking either of these sources.
They can both be super helpful when you need a quick fix of information to deal with a situation in the here and now, but using these to radically transform the way your family is interacting...
So, who should you trust and where should you go to get advice?
First, trust yourself.
You are the number one expert on your child.
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This is something I get contacted about a lot so I've decided to write a mini post about it.
Trust me, schools can be a mine-field when you're trying to get your child the right help.
But honestly, it's important that no matter what you remember - schools are not mental health institutions, teachers are not mental health professionals and deep down they really do want to help.
If you’ve not experienced this yet, you’re probably thinking, “that’s awful, what parent could think such a thing?”.
If you’re experiencing it right now, I want you to know it’s OK.
Kids are hard.
Parenting is hard.
Life is so unbelievably hard I don’t know how anyone makes it to 65 let alone 100!
But, it really is OK.
Things do improve.
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You get into a relationship because you really like each other, then this grows to love and then you think to yourself 'I'm definitely going to be in it for the long haul with this one so lets cement it by bringing a baby into the world'
For some very strange reason we forget that we're purposely adding a 3rd wheel.
Well not me that’s for sure!
I had to go and get a masters to find out how to do it...
So, I think it’s probably time we should put the whole ‘parenting comes naturally’ and ‘you’ll know what to do’ type phrases to bed as a society because they are just not true.
Yes, while you will instinctively know when your child needs something (them crying at full pelt is pretty hard to accidentally miss), as a parent you often have very little to go on in order to find out what they need.
It really doesn’t matter whether you have a new-born baby, a toddler or a teenager - getting them to clearly communicate what they want without all the drama is near impossible...
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Before I get into the why (It's really important that they learn to do it by the way), I just want to step back to the first time my nephew lied.
It was so difficult because 1) I wanted to wet myself with laughter because he had really been caught red handed and 2) I wanted to give him a fist bump for hitting his next developmental stage.
If I had less will-power and actually followed through on my natural instincts then it would have been disastrous.
Katie Woodland - A developmental, and holistic psychologist who specialises in educating and empowering individuals, business leaders & school teachers to remove mental health as a barrier to success.