The only thing every mental health professional needs to do so that you can overcome stress, depression & anxiety
Well, I’m back and after a little rant on Facebook live last week, I thought I should probably write a short but sweet little post about the one thing any mental health professional needs to do so that you can overcome stress, depression & anxiety.
As you will probably know by now, I am a very passionate person and when people are doing things wrong I tend to get quite fired up about it ... #sorrynotsorry
This is especially true when it comes to other mental health professionals.
Growing up, I was a very anti-social person (not one in trouble with the law, just someone who really didn’t like to be around a lot of people). It happens a lot when people are bullied and after my very unhappy years throughout school, it really is no wonder I grew up withdrawn and very untrusting of anyone and everyone who wasn’t part of my family.
They say you build a wall, well I’m pretty sure I built a Jedi force field around me!
Anyways, after ditching school and ending up in the fashion biz – which I loved by the way (especially the epic discounts, I mean who doesn’t want a pair of designer jeans for 75% off?).
As you probably know, this also didn’t end up too well with regards to my mental health…
But, because I’m a very determined individual I have soldiered on and done whatever I can to build a life that I want to live.
The massive ‘plot twist’ in my life, is that the bulk of this is centred around delivering intensive therapy to people who are pretty much on the edge of giving up.
No one, other than my mum, was more shocked than me to find out that this is what I was born for.
20 years ago, I genuinely couldn’t care less what anyone else’s issues were.
Partly, because I was living a daily nightmare of my own and believed you should ‘suck it up’ and partly because I couldn’t even consider taking on the weight of someone else’s troubles.
Now, it’s pretty much the sole focus of my day.
I live to help others find their happy, healthy life.
The problem is, as far as I can tell, most other mental health professionals have gone the other way…
Unlike me, they started out caring, kind and wanting to help others then after years of being stuck in a broken system they have emotionally withdrawn from their role.
(Slight interjection, just so you know, I wasn’t a mean horrible person, I just was emotionally detached from everyone because it was my way of coping with the world)
Why this matters
If you are a mental health professional who is emotionally withdrawn from the person you’re trying to help then you will NEVER help them.
Without your help, they will NEVER get better.
If you’ve stopped caring, it’s way past time you switched profession.
Take some time off, go on a long vacation, see the world, raise a family…
It doesn’t matter what you choose to do, just stop harming the very people you set out to help all those years ago.
Why this matters to you
If you’re struggling with stress, depression & anxiety (to be honest if you’ve got any type of physical or mental illness), if you’re health professional has emotionally withdrawn, chances are your recovery will be affected.
When you check in, make sure you intuitively check them out.
Are they listening to you?
Do they take the time to truly understand what you’re feeling?
Have they shown that they acknowledge what you’re going through and are ready to do what it takes to help you get to the other side?
Is it obvious they’re thinking about everything else except you when you’re in their office?
Do they talk over you, dismiss what you’re saying and ignore anything you are bringing to the table?
Have they lumped you in a box with past patients and have already given up on you?
Recovery is a two-way street; you are in control and the mental health professional is the coach who will help you reach your dreams.
If you’re not both on the same page then trust me, the one thing you can do to safeguard your mental health is to stand up and walk right out of the door.
So, as promised, this was a very short (although not necessarily sweet) post!
If you’re feeling a little wobbly right now and are not sure where to turn why not head over to the weekly #TuesdayTip podcast. Each week, I walk you through small simple things you can do to recover from stress, depression and anxiety.
You may not need the full force of my extremely passionate intensive holistic therapy programme, but at least you’ll be getting help from someone who hasn’t stopped caring.
Have an amazing week & see you next Weds.
Catch you soon, Katie x
p.s., if you need anything please do drop a comment below I truly am here to help & will get back to you as soon as I can.