Are you struggling to let go of the mistakes you made?
Or maybe forgive someone for the harm they've caused you in the past?
In 1995 Eva Kor, a prisoner of the Nazi concentration camp Auschwitz shocked the world when she forgave all Nazi's for their crimes...
In 2017, psychologists, psychiatrists and religious professors released research proving meditation is harmful for people experiencing mental health issues. Even the NHS has this as a warning on their website, yet more and more therapists are pushing people to do meditation to overcome mental illness...
Do you find that you keep swinging between two different decisions?
Try this simple, yet powerful technique which helps you bi-pass what you think you 'should' do and truly find out what is the right decision for you -
Chances are you’re a little taken-a-back by the title.
You may even be thinking, surely awareness raising needs to be the number 1 thing mental health professionals (and pretty much everyone in the whole entire world) should be doing?
& while I understand, I disagree – wholeheartedly.
Before we get into working out what you’re struggling with I need to be super honest with you…
I purposely run a no-label service because I think we can get caught up in the need to fit ourselves into a box and this then misses some two REALLY important things:
Being a mum or a dad is one of those things you dream of.
You imagine holding a baby in your arms, staring lovingly into its eyes and being full of so much warmth you think you’ll explode.
You watch them grow in your minds eye, enjoying each day, laughing, having fun, exploring the world.
Before I start, I want you to know, this is not me slating another organisation or what they’re doing to help with regards to mental illness.
This is an honest piece which talks about the benefits of mental health first aid training, but also highlights how for some organisations it just isn’t the right fit.
Let’s be honest, there’s never a one size fits all approach to anything in life and supporting your employees to be fit, healthy and mentally well is no different.
So, I was chatting away to one of my lovely mentors on Friday and we were talking about all things dark, depressing and downright un-fun.
Talking about depression and suicide are not how I recommend anyone starts their weekend.
But, I guess for us, it's a big-ole part of what we do and isn't something we can avoid...
OK, so this is a hard one.
Mainly because unfortunately, what’s best for the employee isn’t necessarily always best for the organisation…
It’s probably counter to a lot of other information you’ve heard too – but that’s because people are so worried about being PC, they’re ignoring the research.
Over the past 4.5 years in business, I've seen a monumental shift in the way we support people who are struggling with mental illness.
No longer are people prepared to rely on medication (the fact that they're just about as effective as placebo's may have something to do with this... (Penn, E., & Tracy, D. K., 2012)).
It may even have something to do with the fact that it's unbelievably difficult to see anyone when you know that you're struggling (some services still having disgustingly high waiting times).
But in my mind there's something much more profound happening.
Ready to hear something bonkers?
Research by Feldman, et al., (2008) found that when guys and gals are stressed out at uni, spending time with their mates helped them to relax them which lead to better academic success...
Oh, wait, that kinda makes sense ...
& isn't that what we all already knew?
A couple of years ago I created a whole campaign full of free opt-ins, follow-up emails and even some video training around the whole subject of employee engagement & you know what it sucked.
OK, so it didn't suck, it just didn't quite have the same sort of flair that everything I produce now does.
It was also super complicated because I was still a newbie at the whole 'content creation thing'
We’re going to be jumping in with the answer to this question in a couple of tics but, I just want to prepare you.
Because, I really don’t think you’re going to like the answer…
You see, it’s one of those airy-fairy type answers…
We often forget that like us, students have their own issues.
Sometimes a child may not be engaging in class because of things that have happened at home, maybe they dislike the subject, maybe they had no breakfast or maybe they just hate school altogether.
There are 101 reasons why a child, even one who is normally quite engaging, checks out.
(so that they are not easily led astray by the wrong crowd...)
You’d think, considering I offer a training package for organisations this blog post would be something I’d want to keep under wraps…
Look I get it.
I’m the first one to say, happy employees are profitable employees (& just so we’re on the same page your profits don’t mean diddly squat to me, but your employee’s emotional and mental state, well that matters a lot).
Was your weekend everything you planned?
I spent Saturday hiding in my craft room making a Jacket because the weather was not exactly gardening weather...
But, I took advantage of filling my hobby-bucket after a really hectic few weeks and by Sunday was feeling rejuvenated.
Getting children to pay attention to anything nowadays seems like an impossibe task.
Social media and the internet has enabled them to access the information they need at a click of the button and no longer requires the same level of congnitive processing as it once did.
Imagine whizzing back in time to when you were a child and the option to ask an all-knowing instantly responsive gadget to give you the answer to everything - you'd absolutley take advantage.
Before we get into how to persuade your child (or children) to do what you want, we need to quickly address the elephant I've just plonked into the room -
Persuasion is not manipulation, it is not unethical and it is not about turning your children into robots.
Persuasion is supporting your child to make a decision which is going to be beneficial for them in the long term.
I posted a question on LinkedIn yesterday & it certainly got a few reactions...
'If a colleague is returning to work after being off with stress, depression or anxiety should you mention it?'
I left it quite ambiguous on purpose so that people would interpret it in a way which was personal to them.
I hope you had a great weekend?
Took some time out to sit back, relax and chill out?
That might be a problem.
I'm gonna keep this one short and sweet so that you can take action asap (mainly because this is key when busting through the procrastination habit!
I'm writing this post because I know that it's not only going to help many of the wonderful parents in the group I'm supporting, but also help many of you out there who have yet to meet me.
But before I start, I want you to know something...
Everything is going to be OK.
Even if right now all you can see is pain.
There is always hope and there is always another day to make things brighter in all of our lives.
Of course, EVERYONE knows that #psychologists and #psychics are two different things...
Trust me, for some, this really hasn't sunk in yet...
Tune into this weeks #TherapyThursday #podcast episode to find out why this really matters to you -
So, I'm gonna be here super quick because it's getting late & I wanna get out in my garden to build my much needed compost heap...
Here's the thing.
4 years ago I said no to pursuing a career in mental health the traditional way because I felt constrained by all the rules/regs.