It really doesn't matter who you are, where you're from or what you do for a living.
Everyone can help someone by just following these really simple instructions:
Walk up to someone.
Go from there...
It really is that simple!
It sounds nuts doesn't it?
Starting a conversation with someone using two letters.
Even more nuts - those two words could save someones life.
Isolation is the biggest problem when dealing with mental health.
The only way to counter isolation is to get all up in that persons space (but let's not go getting aggressive about it...)
Just start with 'Hi'.
Now, don't panic - I promise they're not going to break down, cry their eyes out or tell you their deepest darkest secrets.
It really doesn't work like that.
Chances are they will met your 'hi' with another 'hi'
I know - crazy right!?
Oh, no - what do you say next?
You really don't want that awkward silence to crop up because that would just ruin everything.
So, how about you follow up with - how are you?
OK, so right about now your inner voice has just shouted noooo..... at you (all in slow motion as if you are in an action film).
Your brain is shouting 'this girl is off the chart bonkers - this is the worst thing I could ever ask someone who is struggling'
Let me just jump in and ask - why?
Take a moment to just think about when you're feeling rubbish.
Now, imagine someone pops over to you, possibly with a cup of tea (mines white with no sugar please - this is the second time I've asked in a blog & I'm still waiting...), and asks you how you're doing.
How do you feel afterwards?
I know that I always feel pretty good after.
I also know that when we're talking I don't spill every intimate detail of my life to the person who has just made me a cuppa.
Instead when we're chatting away I'll probably talk about the good things, or even just random rubbish.
But, for someone who has a mental health difficulty even this 5 minute respite from all the negative thoughts, debilitating fear and worry - plus all the other crazyness that's going on in their head right now is the same as a 14 day all expenses paid holiday to you and I.
It really is that powerful.
Your quick chat may just be the very thing that makes them realise the world is OK and it's worth fighting on.
I'll even make it super easy for you.
If you're worried about being put on the spot and it not being super awkward you can forgo the live conversations.
You can jump on the phone, send a text, send an email...
Give yourself time to get composed before you have to respond.
But, be careful with written communication.
It really doesn't matter that you were being super awesome and uplifting when you wrote it.
If they're in a deep dark place when they read it what you have written may come across all wrong.
Personally, I think the face-to-face approach really is the best.
Not only for a sneaky tea break but because you also get to feel great at the same time.
& hey, if you can't at least enjoy it then really just don't bother...
So have fun, start with a hi & I'll catch up with you soon!!
Best wishes Katie.
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